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Sunday, August 15, 2010

PRETTY ??????????

Today I would like to ask you to take the time to listen and watch the below poem by Katie Makkai called "Pretty". Please, Please watch it and let me know what your thoughts are. You have to watch it all the way to the end to get the full impact of what she is saying. If you want to know what I think about the world view on this word then just watch this and you will know. She is spot on.

How much of our lives are wasted on this word.?

How much hurt and confusion does it bring to us?

If anyone finds the equivalent for the male then please let me know.



  1. Very thought-provoking Wendy. I'm having this ongoing discussion with Phil at the moment about the word 'beautiful'. We've always told her she is 'beautiful', but as she goes through a little 'princess' stage, she's always trying to be 'beautiful'...as in, dress beautifully, look beautiful, and keeps asking us..."Do I look beautiful in this?". So I'm trying to now explain to her that it's more important to be 'beautiful on the inside'. As I try to point out to her and I ask her this, "What good is beauty on the outside if you are a horrible and nasty person on the inside? People would not think you beautiful at all." As we try to explain to her that beauty is less about how you look, and more about who you are, because of course, when we tell her she is beautiful, it's her whole being we are talking about. It's a tough one I'm trying to get through to her and hope she will understand a little better before she goes to school. I even got a little terse with her last week, and told her that I never want her to compare herself with anyone and that she should never strive to be anyone else but herself.

    Very timely post, thank you Wendy. :)

  2. I saw this clip a few months ago and loved it. If they'd had poetry like that when I was at high school I would have aced that part of English.

    Now I think it should be compulsory viewing in all schools to help all kids to understand that beauty isn't everything and that it's ok to be yourself. Besides I've seen more beautiful people walking around the streets than on fashion catwalks. That lot look like 2 legged coathangers.

    I'll stop now because the whole thing makes me more than a tad irritated.

    @ Kerry did you by any chance see Sunday Night. They had an interview with a 21 year old who had this condition where she can't put any weight no matter how much she eats. We could all learn a lot from her. While she may not be a Megan Gale that young lady is radiant. She glows from the inside out. Sadly society sees her without truly SEEING her.

  3. Thanks for your comments. It is a very moving piece I feel, with such a strong and neccessary message. Kerry - getting a bit terse is not so bad. Focusing your discussions with Phil on her inner beauty and talents is necessary. I had to get terse with Alexia over the years but I feel she learnt most of her lessons in year 3 at school where she questioned why she didn't have many friends and I told her bluntly that she just simply was not a nice person. Her focus was on her and her only and over that year she grew so much and learnt her lessons. From that point on she learnt to be just herself and always stood up for the underdog. The kid left alone. The kid being picked on. She found her worth in other things of much more importance than her beauty.

  4. No Nevyn, didn't see Sunday Night??Not too sure which show you're talking about. I watch very little TV. The things that interest me tend to be on too late or I get busy doing something else.
    Thanks Wendy. I suppose there will be ample opportunity for Phil to learn these soughts of lessons. No doubt, I'll be keeping a watchful eye on her! I hope Phil discovers the same lessons as Alexia. Your only hope is that they make the discovery well before it can cause any real problems in regard to self-image and confidence.

  5. Hi Kerry,

    I put in the links to Sunday Night, unfortunately they don't have a clip of the interview. The other is a link to Lizzie's website, there is a short clip there.

    I noticed on one of the Sunday Night links there was a comment left by a Mother for her 4 year old daughter, saying how much she liked her. The info posted doesn't mention it but someone once posted a video of her titled 'The Ugliest Girl in the World'. At the time it devastated her then she wrote a book called Lizzie Beautiful. She is ruly amazing.



  6. Thankyou so much Nevyn for this link to Lizzie. Wow - what an amazing lady. I would so love to go see her talk some where. I will have to keep an eye out to when she is in Australia. Thanks again, Wendy